I love my job. I work as a counselor. It is a very sacred time to be with people. Many times I feel I have learned more from my client than I ever expected. Each time I write down the lessons I have learned because life is the greatest teacher.
Lessons for this week: We cannot hold onto unrealistic expectations of others. People normally do not change unless they want to and we cannot expect them to be the person we want them to be. Past behavior predicts future behavior. We chose our perspective. It can cause so much pain for us to hang on to what we think we "deserve" but are not getting. We have to accept people where they are and who they are if we want to have a relationship with them. With that said, we also have to uphold boundaries that respect our values and feelings. Feelings of abandonment are very real and play into our daily lives. If we can recognize our thoughts and behaviors that occur because of our past abandonment then we can process and act in ways that are healthy. I don't think we ever get over feeling abandoned but we can continue to focus on our self-worth. Looking at our positive qualities and contributions when we begin to go down the negative rabbit hole helps us resurface. Continuing to surround ourselves with kind people who don't take things personally and accept us for who we are is important in increasing our self-worth. Daily gratitude for what we already have is essential.
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